is it dementia or is it just plain stupid

4 Feb

london 9.24am 4.4C overcast sunday 2018

time is slow, i woke at about 7.30am and it seems i was awake a long time, surfing the net, but i see it is only 9.26am now. i am waiting for about 10.30am to take the bus to paddington library as it opens at 11am. funny how sometimes time goes so fast, and other times it drags along. but i saw 2 articles in the guardian about old people. one is about 78yr old who is having fun living on £18,000 a year. i can relate to her, because it is really very cheap to live , even in london, and she got a lot of spare cash to indulge.

the other is about someone’s grandmother, who had always gone over her broadband allowance from BT, and have to pay  a lot for the excess. when her grandchild the writer, checked her bills, she found she had been paying this overcharge for a long time. it seems to me strange that the old lady never queries her bill from BT. being old does not make u stupid, unless dementia has set in and that has made them stupid. but it gives other old people a bad name; in that everyone expects old people to be stupid… or rather they all say he got dementia…maybe it is the same thing. so we all lump stupid old people with people with dementia. and no wonder we then say the statistics for dementia have gone up.

added. i just have a thought, how come that old lady went over her broadband usage quota, if she is so technophobic she would not be online long enough to go over the limit every month. makes u wonder what the real story is. 

incidentally, i dont know why BT is still putting a limit on broadband usage. every package of theirs should be for unlimited broadband, like talktalk. and why people still use BT is another mystery. i would even go further to say if u are using BT, you are stupid. there!!! i suppose people will be throwing their kitchen sink at me for saying that.haha.

my old friend, the one who asked me to check his computer, told me his BT package is £75 a month. and he says he hardly use any of it. i told him just call them and ask them to change it. but for some reason he seems reluctant to do it. i wonder whether he is a bit deaf and also cannot understand if u talk too fast, and he says the BT person, and in fact everyone he talks to on the phone for services talks too fast and he cannot understand them… hmm, maybe that is the problem.

and all those people manning the phones are young, they dont understand about talking fast. you really have to talk slow and always go back and ask, ‘tell me if you understand that or if i am talking too fast for you’… now i am old i do know what their problem is, because i too sometimes have to say ‘say again’, when someone says something i cannot understand, i give as my reason their accent, but i daresay it might be they are talking fast and i too am getting into that old age mode of not being able to listen fast. fortunately i have not got to that stage where i dont understand them even if they say it again…and again haha.

and it has not stopped me from ringing these services and changing my tariff if i feel i am paying too much. one thing i know about myself is that i go straight to the point, and ask point blank, whilst i know plenty of old people go round and round the point… like my old friend who was telling me something, and went all over the place and then lost what he was trying to say. haha. so if they do that when on the line to these help lines, that might make them unable to make the other person on the line know what is bothering them. i told him just say my monthly package is too expensive and i want you to help me bring it down. and when they start going through all the list of things that he does with the package , just say no, which is what he is doing anyway, he does not use any of its tv services. i think he is not even aware of the free calls he can make , or free text messages he can use… 

i have noticed this too, that old people like to tell a story and like to give u the background of it, setting the scene as it were and then give the punch line, but they are so muddled that they forget what it was they are trying to say when the punchline came round. it is a chore to listen, because you have to listen to a lot of irrelevant things before getting to the point they want to make. and then when u want to hear more about that point, they stop.

oh there is another reason why an old person sticks to one provider even though they know it is expensive. this is another old friend of mine who sticks with BT, because he says they are responsible for the last bit of line to his home, and so he is scared to move to another provider in case something happens to his line that runs to his house, and they wont be able to sort it out because they are not BT. it is a misunderstanding of the situation, but there was no getting him to see sense. 

added. hey, i got an insight that might explain why old people are alone, and feeling lonely. they cannot stand being with other old people who are at a deeper stage of senility than them, and at the same time they cannot listen fast enough to young people who talk too fast. and to find people that is at the same stage of senility is too boring for them, as they prefer younger people. so all these factors just make them really irritated at any company and drives everyone away. 

i have a feeling that being alone and possibly feeling lonely is inevitable as you grow older. for one thing all your friends would have died, the longer u live, so that will make u end up alone. it is not easy to make new friends, that i know. as i go older, i find younger people have nothing of common interest with me, and any friends i make of my own age or older sooner or later die off… or get to suffer all kinds of medical conditions that limit their socialising. fortunately for me, i like being on my own. i rather be on my own than to be with someone who is insufferable. i have known people like that and so whenever i find myself alone, and wonder if i should go seek out company, i remember those people and settle back to my own ways, thoroughly glad i dont have to suffer those people anymore. 

bought 5packs of these chipolatas 340mg for 39p reduced £1.55 in waitrose this morning. and got a free cappuccino too. very good value these. they are just thinner sausages really so quicker to cook.

One Response to “is it dementia or is it just plain stupid”

  1. Sarah M Monday February 5, 2018 at 9:53 am #

    Yes I think that is a real thing about older people needing people around them to talk more slowly. My mother was endlessly asking me to tell her what other people had just been talking about. Used to really annoy me: ‘you’re here you speak English’. Now I realise it was just too fast for her to follow.

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