old age problems

16 Mar

london 6.12pm 11.4C dry cloudy friday 2018

its mild, warm today. strange really because tomorrow it will plunge to 0C. when the east winds brings in siberia cold to cover all of uk.

i have just been with ian, for our monthly chat meetup. we went to the ageuk tavis house cafe, where they are very welcoming, and coffee is only 50p. they are in fact very easy going about people bringing in their own food to eat there, even providing microwaves to warm the food up. and a sign says to bring your own cup if u want to takeaway a drink. they still continue with washable mugs if u drink in. i think that is good , so that they dont use any disposable cups anymore.

our talk is rather gloomy in a way. about his ageing parents. they are in their 90s.  he got a text message from his sister saying his mum had a fall. and there is also the constant problem with his father, having strokes, and needing care. what with his mum having cancer, he got a lot of future problems to solve involving their care. as the population ages, many will have this problem to solve. 

but here is something for the kid in all of us. i found them. 

right hand image is a macdonalds happy meal toy. the legs pull out to a 12cm measuring tape. the other one, i have no idea . toy cars inside this yellow container. usually i find the container empty… and i use them to keep coins. this is the first time i find one with its contents intact. 

added 8.39am saturday 9.11.19. ian’s dad died 20oct 2019. he was actually visiting us at my flat when the call came from his sister that he had died in hospital. she and his mother were visiting him at the time, as the doctors have said he has not long to live. and they had just came back from lunch when he died. ian thought it was a false alarm, as he had been lingering on in the past for so long. that is why he did not cancel our meet and had planned to go there after our meet. the hospital is in essex. the father has dementia and had been so for a long time. 

4 Responses to “old age problems”

  1. Carl D'Agostino Saturday March 17, 2018 at 2:08 am #

    Elder care is beyond the income for most families in US. This is a crisis with inadequate public/private placement except for very wealthy and many facilities are rat holes and roach nests.

  2. alifesgayventure Saturday March 17, 2018 at 10:17 am #

    i think it will be a big problem looking after the old, as their numbers increase in future. it is expensive because it is so labour intensive, care workers are needed and plenty of them, but the pay is low, so local people dont want to do them.that is why i think the west will have to import foreign carers. likely to be mexicans for usa. east europeans? for europe.

  3. Garfield Hug Saturday March 17, 2018 at 11:37 am #

    Love your McDonald finds! Singapore is no different, facing the flood of silver tsunami and we are faced with aging too..all of us are facing it. Sadly..

  4. alifesgayventure Saturday March 17, 2018 at 11:53 am #

    it is a potential time bomb. time like this i wish we could invent a robot carer. or have colleges to make it so that a career in caring is a sought after career. make it equal in status as nursing, or doctoring.

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