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being thrifty, frugal, or cheapskate

8 Jan

London

8.1.13 tuesday
I have noticed in wordpress there are very few, if fact, no frugal men who are blogging about it. Those that blog are those who give advise about managing your money. Investing, spending on assets , etc. rather than just a daily talking of their frugal ways.

I seem to be the only one talking of it. and what is more, a gay male talking of being thrifty. it is not something u think of when u hear the word gay. 

I think a lot of men, and women too don’t like to give the impression that , what to us would be just frugal or thrifty habits , they will think are cheapskates. It is a fact that if u talk too much about your frugal ways to friends they will think u are a cheapskate. Even the best of friends will think that of you.

And sometimes, it may be u too will think that of yourself.

Going dumpster diving, taking things people leave in the street, rummaging in rubbish black bags, haha. going to recycling bins and taking stuff that people have got rid off. And what is more,  all these stuff are second hand stuff and have been used by others, whose sanitary habits you don’t know about and may be awful. If u put it like that it really is very offputting, doesn’t it?

So I guess we all put a limit to how far we will go in our frugal ways.

We try to whitewash that frugal ways by saying we are saving the planet, and we don’t like waste. Or even we are saving money because we are in debt and want to clear our debts.

What if I say I am not in debt, I can buy those things, but chose not to. Does it mean I am a cheapskate? Hmm, and what is wrong with that? Yet so many of us would be motified if someone were to call us that. I think the fear of being thought of as one stops many people from doing these things. Or not let others know they are doing it. It is something no one likes to boast about.

Though with so many blogs in wordpress talking of it, maybe people don’t mind talking about it in the anonymity of a blog. And it is mainly women.

Perhaps amongst men it is still taboo.

I don’t blame people for keeping quiet about their thrifty ways, or even their cheapskate ways. Haha.

Friends may pity you if ever they hear u say that u go to supermarket when they reduced the price at the end of the day . They must think poor you, to be reduced to such a way of life and counting the pennies. And I am sure many of us find that irritating, as nothing irks more than another taking a superior attitude. Unless, like me, you don’t care what others think. So it is not something people tell everyone, only to close friends who they know are as thrifty as themselves.

And we all know of friends whose thrifty ways even we balk at. Like my friend who wont flush his loo, as he wants to save water.

I would at least throw some water in from the tap but my friend wont even do that. Haha. I respect his wishes and so when I visit him I too take his cue. Even though I think it is going a bit too far. Actually, he lives in a cottage and he could have a water butt to collect rain water and use the rain water, but he does not do so.

I am sure my friends must think I am going too far by refusing to switch the heating on at all. I am warm enough as I live in a flat in London and somehow it is seldom very cold here. My indoor temp is 12C even at the coldest temp outside. So it is not as bad as it sounds. Heating contributes the biggest cost to the utilities bill so if u can do without it u are laughing.

To me it seems silly to heat up the whole flat just to keep warm, when wearing layers of fleece, eating hot foods or drink, can do the same thing.

I think it makes you more resistant to disease. I don’t have colds so much anymore since I stopped using the heaters. Perhaps it is a coincidence.

Also, I find I don’t have qualms about opening the windows , as I don’t have the heating on and so none of it goes out of the windows. I think if I heat my flat I would be very reluctant to open windows and let the expensive heating get lost. This way I keep my flat aired and ventilated and prevent build up of moisture from the condensation, which if u will notice is worse in a heated flat.

I think also I rid my flat of all the creepy crawlies that breed during the summer. They can all die in my cold flat during the winter. Haha. Or they can go next door. Haha.

All in all, there are lots of real good advantage not to have heating. But u cannot stop others from thinking u are a cheapskate so i guess u have to develop a thick skin and not care what they think.

just laugh at them, when they get into debt and worry about their money problems. haha. 

Extreme Cheapskates – I Don’t Wipe My a$$

6 Jan

london

the chinese woman in new york featured in the video is very extreme but many of the things she does makes a kind of sense if u rein in and damp down the extreme lengths to which she went.

it sounds gross when she said i dont use toilet paper,and the title of the video… i dont wipe my ass, sounds horrific until u see the video. it is a misnomer.

when she demonstrated using water and soap, it is actually what many s.e.asians used to do long ago and many may still do even today.

i know in malaysia we have a tap with hose attached in the wc, for this very purpose. using water and soap is much cleaner than just wiping with tissue.

but somehow we all seem to have bought into the commercial toilet manufacturers brainwashing us to use their products in liew of water.

as for the dumpster foods, it is just poor cooking skills and presentation on her part. instead of throwing everything inside a pot and serving it pot and all, we all know it can be done better if they were served in plates separately.

it is too extreme to just eat only thrown away food.  packaged foods thrown by the road is not going to last long in the heat of  summer  in new york. 

it is cheap to buy fresh veg , meat etc when the supermarkets reduced them on the day they expire and cook them from scratch.

i daresay her hanging on to that 12yr short pant even though the elastic has gone ,to the extent of using a clip on it is because she has got fond of that short pant.

she is right about the dishwashing machine.

her not using a washing machine for her clothes is v extreme. but in the old days people wash their clothes by hand and have not felt deprived, so she is just going back to those times.

i think what it showed is that u can get too carried away with being thrifty and frugal, and u have to weigh it with a balanced outlook and choose certain aspects of it but always be aware of not going into extremes.

But having said that caution, i would say go ahead and do what u like, and be as extreme as u like. haha.

she did not appear to be angry or bitter about having to live like that. in fact she seems to derive a lot of pleasure from her lifestyle and that is something you cannot say for the majority of people who are not that extreme as her. 

Starry Musings

I was flipping through the channels and I came across this show Extreme Cheapskates. This woman is soooo strange..Sorry, there is no way I am not using toilet paper just to save a few pennies. Definitely wouldn’t shake her hand.

Part 1 – Explains her hygiene and living arrangements

Part 2 – She serves her friend and his girlfriend a “dumpster dived” meal.

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