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first sunny day of the month

9 Dec

london 12.7C sunny wednesday 2015

today , this morning for the first time this december month, the sun came out and is shining in a bright blue sky . it has been grey up till now. so it has been 9 days since we turned december that the sun has come out. whilst the whole of november has been grey.

but somehow i dont seem to miss the sun that much. granted it is nice to get to see it and to see a bright blue cloudless sky but it wont kill me not to have it. i am glad i dont suffer from SAD, (seasonal affective disorder) that affliction which affects some people when they dont see the sun.

i think it is a mindset. if u think u can only be happy if u see the sun and it is bright and sunny and warm, than u will get sick if it is not. it is all in the mind. change that mindset and see the change. but it does mean u have to do the work of changing the mindset and a lot of people dont know how to do it, or have very indisciplined minds that talk back and tell them not to be idiots but to continue to believe the sun will make them happy.

there is an article in the papers today about how anti depressants are only as successful as mind therapy. and yet people criticise the mind therapy and praise anti depressants for fixing those who are depressed.

the only thing good about anti depressants is that in the short term they do something that makes people think it is working. ( i think they have a sedative effect, dulls the mind, and stops it nagging, so it appears as if the person is getting relief. )whilst mind therapy takes time and is expensive and requires the patient to put in the effort.

taking  a pill does not require any work by the patient. perfect for those who say ‘i dont have to do anything, u are the doctor u do allthe work to get me well’.

‘that is your job’, they say.

whereas if u are using the mind method u have to practise and do the work after the sessions with the mind therapist.

but i have noticed when i do yoga or tai chi with an instructor, i tend to not do it afterwards. i wait till the next lesson comes round and then do it. but that is not the correc way… to  only rely on the once -a -week sessions.

 i know i should be practising the moves every day, but i dont do it. why? if even i could fall into that laziness, how much easier are those who are allready afflicted to do  that.

that is why having mindful sessions take up so much effort and may not be successful at the end.

in the end, i believe it is not that crucial to get lessons from someone and expect to be taught. you can be your own teacher and do the mindfulness on your own.

many of us who are sensible and live an equable life without any of these neuroses, are those of us who can discipline our mind and scold it if it goes off kilter and start to tell us rubbish ideas and views.

the undisciplined mind can be a real nag. telling u all kinds of fibs, and creating anxiety. if u can remember a time when your mind tells u that u have forgotten to lock the door, or switch off the lights, etc. even though u remember clearly doing so. that is the nagging mind, telling u lies, and u should firmly tell it to fuck off or you will give it a earful. slap it down and then it might not nag at u and make u anxious. that is what i mentally do when my mind start acting up. i advise u to do the same.